The law of forgiveness teaches to forgive everyone who caused you pain and suffering. A bible passage in Matthew 6:12 reads “forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors”. But question is, how can you forgive someone who has caused you pain and suffering and hurt you to the core? The ego rises and you might want to get even and retaliate as you play the memories of the experience over & over in your mind. It becomes crippling as you hold on to the negative emotions of anger, resentment, hostility and bitterness.
As you go through life, you carry a chip on your shoulder holding a grudge because of past hurts. It becomes toxic and poison to your body as you continue to walk in pride, being defensive, lack of trust and blaming others. You have a choice to forgive and free the offender but more importantly, you free yourself. Although it may be difficult to do, it can be done.
Why do we need to forgive others? How can we forgive a person? The bible tells us in the book of Ephesians 4:31-32 – “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, brawling & slander. Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you.”
Truth be told, forgiveness is not only about others but it is about your own spiritual growth. Love and forgiveness cannot be separated. If we choose to live out the love of God as the purpose of our life, then forgiving is an option that cannot be avoided. Forgiveness is about you and the lesson you must learn.
Here are 4 steps to forgiveness:
True forgiveness comes when you can honestly say, thank you for that experience. By forgiving you will be able to escape the consequences of suffering, hidden resentment and hatred.